In the dating jungle, people lie all the time.
However, depending on how skilled they
are, it can be difficult to determine when
someone is lying to you.
Do you know how to recognise the signs
that someone is lying to you Yours truly
and Frao were taken through a ‘Detect-A-
Liar crash course’, by a psychologist over
a drink.
The good psychologists claimed that some
of the signs are obvious while others are
more subliminal, but there are ways to
catch someone in a lie, you just need to
know what they are.
A person who is lying to you won’t make
eye contact with you or they make too
much eye contact. I believe many men
have faced this situation in the course of
their love life. According to the
psychologist, women are the best liars!
When women are lying and they notice
you are suspicious, they always look down
at the floor or away from your eyes. Some
try to stare you in the face in a deliberate
way because they feel like making eye
contact will make what they are sayings
more believable.
Liars avoid using contractions. However, I
believe men, too, use the same strategies
to lie.
And when you corner a liar, especially a
woman, they always ask a question like,
“where did you get that information”
while they try to back pedal and come up
with an explanation for your question.
Blink rapidly
Liars adopt weird body language. Liars
often fidget, turn away from the person to
whom they are speaking, blink rapidly,
smile less and have pitch changes in their
tone of voice.
They may cross their arms which is a sign
of being “closed” or trying not to reveal
too much information. Sometimes people
fidget excessively when they are lying.
They could fidget with a part of their body
or touch parts of their face, an ear or a
nose or play with keys or another item
that they have in their hand.
Women who lie provide additional
information without being asked for it.
They seem to think that by embellishing
their story you will find it more
believable. What happens, unfortunately,
is they tend to make the story more
complicated and less believable.
The more elaborate the story, the more
likely that it is a fabrication and nothing
near the truth.
A person who is telling a lie will get
defensive. They will do everything in their
power to deflect your attention away from
themselves. And will get angry that you
are questioning their innocence. People
who are telling the truth tend to go the
opposite way, and go on the offense.
Change subject
This will become obvious to you when
you are trying to have a conversation with
a person and they try to change the
subject or move the conversation in a
different direction. If a person is lying
they tend to over-embellish insignificant
details while avoiding important ones.
Frao does this all the time. His stories are
mysterious as they tend to be deep where
they shouldn’t and shallow where they
should have more information. The
psychologist said this, I shot Frao a look
and he looked down and I knew I had
nailed the bugger!
So gentlemen, please learn to detect a liar
early enough so that you can then detach
yourself from her, before you invest a
life’s saving in the stranger.
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